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OCT 9, 2019　19:46

Both “Western style” and “Shinto” wedding styles are popular in Japan. Please be aware that many of the services in chapels do not have their ceremony for (Christian) religious reasons.

On the other hand, wedding services held on shrine grounds have many traditional and cultural aspects. We will be happy to answer any specific inquiries from the Q&A form.


■ The basic information for a Japanese wedding include (1)Invitation (2)Attire (3)Gift Money (4)Gift for Guests.

(1) INVITATION
If you are living in Japan, the invitation will most likely include a separate RSVP card. There are certain rules to follow. (a)Reply within 3days~1week [it’s important to be considerate and reply on the 1week mark if you cannot attend]. (b)Only use black markers (c)When making corrections, use a ruler and cross out the mistakes with double lines (d)Do not use periods [.] or commas [,].

To mark your absence, circle the [欠席]and cross out the 御 with a double line. It is also important that you write a brief congratulatory message along with a message that you can not attend.

(2) ATTIRE
It has become more common for guests to wear whatever they like to for wedding ceremonies. For men and women, it’s important to note that you do not wear white clothes, black ties and anything that are too casual.

(3) GIFT MONEY
It’s a custom and courtesy for guest to bring ご祝儀/Goshugi, a gift money on the day of the wedding, and giving the envelope at the ceremony reception. (1)Friends/colleagues give around 30,000yen / Boss or relative 50,000 or more. The amount is not fixed however, you must never give an amount that are even numbers since it’s considered culturally bad; as these numbers are “divisible=split”.

The bill should have no folds/bends/stains or marking of any sort. You can request a fresh bill at the bank.

(4) GIFT for GUESTS
There will be a gift bag on or nearby your seat called the 引き出物/Hikidemono - which are for you to take home. This will most likely include some confections inside called the Hikigashi, which is a gesture from the newlywed to thank the guests.